Why failing to set boundaries at work is hurting your mental health

Almost everyone is familiar with setting boundaries.  But how many of us actively work towards it? For many years I viewed my self-worth based on my work, title, and salary. I assumed (incorrectly) that if I achieved career success everything else would take care of itself. It didn’t. By not setting boundaries I missed a lot of time when my kids were little. Time that I can’t get back and I carry guilt and regret because of it.   

Not setting boundaries at work slowly seeps into all areas of your life. Including your mental health. This shows up in various ways as you go about your work.

A lack of boundaries will cause you to take on work that isn’t yours to do.

Over time this leads to less energy for family and self-care.

Ultimately, frustration and burnout catch up with you in the form of anxiety, irritability, and poor sleep.

Think of the times you worked late and missed your child’s ballgame or band concert because of a pending deadline or;

The number of times you rationalized working late because you couldn’t set boundaries. “I’ll catch the next game, concert, etc.”

“Sixty-one percent of remote workers and 53% of on-site workers now find it more difficult to “unplug” from work during off-hours.” (Indeed)

If you are with me so far, don’t forget the most important thing…

Setting healthy boundaries will reduce stress and frustration while making sure you have time for what’s most important in life.

You can do that by:

●       Understanding that boundaries are your personal rules-of-engagement, enforced by your actions and how you communicate to others.

●       Identify what isn’t getting done that is a priority and set aside time to complete it

●       Protect that time by signing out of email, turning off notifications, and even put a “Do Not Disturb” sign on your office door.

●       Prepare to be tested. The phone will ring, and people will knock. They are not all emergencies.

●       Understand that how you approach your work may hinder you. i.e., if you are someone that holds themselves to a high level of excellence, or someone other people can count on, these traits can lead to burnout.

●       Communicate realistic expectations to others about your response time and availability.

“Boundaries are not walls. They are the gates and fences that allow you to enjoy the beauty of your own garden.” - Lydia Hall

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